We started potty training Maggie back in January and it's mostly been a success, but we've had quite the relapse since Magson's arrival. As a sleep-deprived new mother of two, I haven't been very patient with what my brothers and sisters call her "pee rage." I'm suddenly catching myself raising my voice. Once I even almost spanked her because I was so frustrated, and I am totally anti-spanking!
So, I literally sat down to watch General Conference this past month with one question I wanted answered: how do I discipline and react to misbehavior? It seems like there's millions of parenting styles and just a lot of questions about how to do it most effectively. (I normally wouldn't call having accidents a misbehavior, except my sweet Maggie was having them on purpose. They were fake accidents. I'm serious! And stopping the "pee rage" isn't all I've been stumped about; it's been how to discipline in general.)
Anyway, Magnet and I have had so many parenting questions, so between conference sessions when there was a special featuring parenting and disciplining children we were all ears. Well, Magnet was. I think I was off taking care of Magson. But anyway, they referenced an awesome site: You Can Do This.
It's got loads of information about discipling your kids that truly resonates with us. We haven't read it all, but my favorite section so far has been the "Discipline vs. Punishment" section where I learned that the word discipline comes from the Latin word disciplina, which means "teaching" or "learning." Also, discipline shares a common root with the word disciple: one who accepts and helps to spread the teachings of another. It talks about praising your children more than you correct them and all kinds of other things. We've always known that you should act consistently and always with love and kindness when discipling aka teaching kids, but exactly how to do that isn't always obvious. It's been nice to have this in-depth resource to refer to and think about.
With Maggie it really has been so natural and easy to respond with love to her little misbehaviors. She's such a good kid. Most of the time she puts herself in time out. It's hilarious. She says, "I going to time out! I being naughty!" She goes in there upset and comes out a minute later and tells me, "I'm happy now!" She's also been such a great big sister to Magson. She loves trying to make him feel better when he cries. She reads books to him. She sings to him. And she loves to talk about the things she's going to teach him when he gets bigger...the latest skill: running. It'll be awhile!
Here are some pictures of her this last month. I feel like I've posted so many of Liam and not enough of her. (It doesn't help that she scrams the second I pull out the camera. Lately she's been pretty insistent that she does not need her picture taken.) OK, enough words from me already. Enjoy!